Women are always asking me, “Dorothy-Inez, do you ever take a bad picture?” The answer is, “Yes!” like any other woman who has done a photoshoot, I used to go through tons of photos before I would finally get to a “YES!” After years of practice and thousands of photos, I can say I have mastered the Art of Selfies and being in front of the camera. I have learned my best angles, which side I need to stand for a duo/group photo, how to use light and doing my makeup. For many women, taking selfies seems some what vain and very uncomfortable. Younger women don’t seem to have as much of a issue with selfies as women 35+ do. I really believe it has a lot to do with mindset and self-image.
As we get older,we become more critical and self-conscious. Things just aren’t where they used to be so we become very uncomfortable in our skin. This self criticism is often projected onto other women who feel great about themselves or think they look good one day and decides to share it. What’s wrong with that? It’s time to own your beauty!
Don’t get me wrong, there is something to be said for women who constantly post pictures of themselves because, “yes” I know for a fact there is something deeper going on for some of those women but for the purpose of this message, I am speaking to women with a healthy self-image but they are holding back because they are afraid of being judged or they hold some limiting beliefs about beauty for themselves and others.
If you are an entrepreneur, speaker, author OR coach, you could be missing out on opportunities to connect with your audience. If used appropriately, selfies can become a tool for branding and most of all CONNECTING. People love to see YOU. My experience tells me that I can post positive quotes all day long and get a few likes, BUT if I post a picture of myself the amount of likes doubles. Why??? What that says, is people want to see/know me. It is called FACEBOOK right? So why not show your face in YOUR community? It’s like coming to a party with a bag over your head. Let people see YOU.
Selfies allow you to express yourselfin different ways by showing your fashion sense, lifestyle, you in action and having fun with friends at an event or outing. No you don’t have to post your whole life, but share pieces of who you are with those that have “chosen” to be a part of your online community. If you are the brand, selfies can be very valuable. I am a Beauty Expert and Transformational Coach, so it only makes sense that when I show up online that I am the billboard for my work. The same goes for you! If you are a Wealth Coach but your profile photo shows you with outdated style and beauty, I cannot help but question the credibility of your brand. Selfies allow you to keep your look current. When you take a selfie, it should be created with your brand in mind so it speaks YOUR message when you post it. You don’t want to post selfies just to post them….THAT can be considered vain and leave a negative perception.
Below are some tips I know will help you create beautiful photos that you can use for beautiful profile pictures and in your online marketing.
Make sure you have good lighting.Before you snap that photo, hold your camera up in position and do a 360 degree circle to see where your best lighting it. It will yield a lovely more younger you. (smile)
Hold the camera at about 45 degrees above your head, it helps you look slimmer and its an attractive angle. I recommend investing in a selfie stick. You can get one for $19.99 on Amazon that comes with a bluetooth clicker so you don’t have to worry about clicking the shutter yourself. If you don’t want a selfie stick, you can use the timer on your phone and it will automatically click.
Make sure your hair and makeup are presentableif you are going to an event, pictures WILL be taken so be camera ready. Unfortunately, if you wear too little makeup for photos, you will look like a blank canvas when the flash hits your face. Wear a little extra blush, deeper lipstick and use a hydrating setting spray when you know you will be in photos. MAKE SURE YOU BLEND….no “apple” cheeks please.
4. Practice! Practice! Practice! Get in front of a mirror! Yes, it sounds crazy, I know but learn your facial features, best angles and how to SMILE. Learn not to over smile…find your most inviting smile. As you become familiar with your UNIQUE BEAUTY you will take an awesome photo in only a couple of takes, I promise.
5. My final tip is specifically for PROFILE PICS…your profile pic is your chance to make a great FIRST IMPRESSION. Here are some Profile Pic Dont’s:Don’t look to the ground or side. Don’t post pics of you with other people. Don’t post animals or cartoon characters. Don’t post OUTDATED pictures. Don’t wear sunglasses.
All of the above “dont’s” can have a negative impact on your brand credibility and trust.
“Profile pictures can cost you thousands in potential clients.” – Dorothy-Inez
As an Image Consultant, the first thing I look at when someone sends me a Friend Request, the first thing I do is look at their pictures; current/past because they tell a story. Pictures are worth a thousand words so make sure your photos are saying what you want them to say about you and your brand.
I hope you found these tips helpful. Trust me, there’ s more! I wanted to help get you started today! This is one of the areas I train my clients around so they are empowered and confident enough to create some of their own branded photos without having to hire a photographer all the time.
You have a tool in the palm of your hand and a gift from God called beauty. It’s time to use both to connect with the clients you are called to serve.
Lastly, check out some of my favorite photo editors to take your pictures to the next level:
Women are always asking me, “Dorothy-Inez, do you ever take a bad picture?” The answer is, “Yes!” like any other woman who has done a photoshoot, I used to go through tons of photos before I would finally get to a “YES!” After years of practice and thousands of...
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Have you ever spoken unkindly to someone including yourself? What was the impact? Words are powerful; and when they are used to hurt someone, they can be devastating. The words you speak and what you say have a huge impact on you and others. What you say matters!
Have you ever called yourself stupid, dumb, idiot? Have you berated yourself in front of the mirror because you may feel fat or unattractive? Every word you say is being processed by your subconscious mind and it begins to seep into your conscious self and the feelings of self-worth begin to dissipate.
What you say ultimately reflects what you believe. If you say , “I’m not a good coach,” you will never experience the success you long to achieve. You are literally setting up to fail before you ever begin. When you begin a thought or a sentence with a negative word, your expectations can never be realized.
This holds true when you speak negatively to someone. While you may apologize, the words have already been spoken; you can’t take them back. The person on the receiving end of the insult may take it to heart and the impact to their soul can last forever. We live in a world where words are used to attack, bully, embrace, nurture, disengage, provoke or inspire its our choice. When we choose to use language to tear down others up, we not only hurt them, we hurt ourselves because we are not operating from our Highest nature.
It is important to realize the affect words. Whether you mean to say them or not, they can transform the very essence of who you are. Children are especially vulnerable to words. Yet, adults often use unkind and insensitive words as a disciplinary measure. Eventually, they grow up with low self-esteem and confidence, feel unworthy of love and worst of all repeat those behaviors with their own children.
The next time you speak, think about your words; choose them wisely when speaking to others. Understand that one word can positively or negatively affect someone’s life; even your own.
What impact have your words had on your success? I’d love to hear from you. Email me at info@dorothyinez.com
I was abandoned by my birth mother and bullied as child. I always felt I wasn’t enough and that there was something wrong with me. It wasn’t until I began to discover who I am in God, what makes me happy, and how much of a badass I really am that I learned to love myself.
I have learned a lot in my many years of living….tune to this episode of SHINE to glean from my experience as I am interviewed by my friend and Shine Strategist Kierra Jones.
Are you looking for ways to bring in some extra income? I know you may not know where to start but I’m here to let you know that creating additional income can be easier than you think!
The internet has made it possible for anyone with a computer and a little bit of spare time to generate passive income and work from home.
Whether you’re interested in blogging, freelance writing, surveys, eCommerce arbitrage (buying items online and reselling them on Amazon), doing grocery shopping for people who can’t get out of their homes due to illness or disability, taking care of pets while people are away on vacation…the list goes on!
I’ve compiled 7 easy ways that you can make money right from home!
1. Sell your old stuff on eBay, FB Market Place or Craigslist 2. Become a virtual assistant (Upwork) 3. Offer to watch someone’s pet while they’re away (Rover) 4. Get paid to drive people around town in your car (Uber, Lyft) 5. Rent out your house or a room you’re not using it (Airbnb) 6. Partner with a network marketing company. Make money sharing a product you love. (Wanna Join My Tribe? Let’s Chat.) 7. Create an Etsy store and sell handmade items or vintage finds you find at thrift stores, flea markets, etc., then ship them yourself with USPS, UPS, FedEx, DHL Express Worldwide Shipping Services or other carriers that offer low rates for small packages like the U-Line Freight Forwarder Program from UPS which offers discounted shipping rates of up to 70% off retail prices!
Let me know which one you decide. Now more than ever you can create your own economy!
Online Business Manager, Faten Bazzi, was born in Detroit, Michigan. Now a 25+ year resident of Brazil, she has years of professional experience that is committed to helping companies, and the people who run them, flourish. Preparing for this responsibility, she attended Baker College online, where she earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration and Marketing. Although at the time she was also raising her three young sons, she still managed to not only excel in her course work, but even gained multiple online internships.
During this time, and as her love for the online business world grew, Faten saw her potential and realized her purpose was to help business owners. Loving her ability to work on her own schedule, it is her pleasure to help entrepreneurs free up their time, so that they can focus more on their businesses, and most importantly, their families. She and her team are dedicated to giving the tired and overworked a refreshing break from the stress of doing it alone.
Faten does this because, as an entrepreneur herself, she knows exactly what you are going through, what you are trying to accomplish, and what you’re trying to avoid. When you’re running a business, it’s so easy to get lost in the daily duties of keeping it afloat. Unfortunately, your hard work can also be what throws your balance between work and family way out of wack. With a mission to help you maintain this balance, Faten uses her years of professional experience, academic background, and honest nature to give you the time you need to get back into what you love most, without having to desert your business. Her biggest desire in doing so is for you to become more accountable for your much needed rest, so that you can be the best for not only your company, but above it all, yourself and your family and the clients you serve.
Join me and Dawn L. Johnson for this week’s show on Wednesday, March 17th at 1p est / 11a PST.
We are going to talk about coping with past behaviors and how they are the root of all mind drama.
Learn ways you can release the past lies of your life though powerful and applicable spiritual practices as a part of your daily life.
ABOUT DAWN:
She loves coaching dope ass women and men to unlearn past behaviors and gain freedom from the mind drama of all the lies they have ever believed about themselves. Through her heart-centered coaching practice she guides clients to connect with their inner light.
Have you ever been afraid of going live because you worry about people judging you?
Have you ever kept yourself from going live because you don’t like the way you look ?
Have you ever worried about not being able to know exactly what to say?
Now more than ever you need to be going live!
You can’t worry about what other people think because often times you think people are judging you, when really it’s not them judging, but you judging yourself.
Most of the time that judgment is simply in your mind.
Trust me, the people on the other side of the camera need to hear your message and many are actually cheering you on!!
Sis, it’s time to move beyond the thoughts of judgment.
Those feelings of judgement begin to dissipate the more you step out. because you find that your audience actually supports you and your confidence grows.
Next, let’s address worrying about how you look.
Yes, I get this one… what I know first hand is how you look is something you can control.
Consider what makes you feel attractive…
Can you glam yourself up a little more?
If you don’t know how, then learn some tips with my FREE E-guide.
How about wearing clothes in your best colorsthat help you to feel beautiful. This is another thing in your control, It’s time to stop letting this stuff hold you back from sharing the message you were born to share.
There are people waiting for YOU to show up!
Lastly, stop worrying about what to say.
I had to remember a lesson I learned from God. He told me NOT to worry about what to say because He would give me the words when I am aligned in my purpose.
For almost a year, I stopped showing up in video as often because I was having issues with my short term memory.I would go live and I forget what I wanted to say, it was embarrassing.
I’m the kind of person that speaks from my soul with NO notes and I had created a story going on about using them. It kept me from fully showing up! I had to learn when I write notes that they are coming from my heart and soul.
If I have to look down for a moment, who cares!!! (just don’t read)
I can’t express enough that there are people waiting for YOU to show up, so don’t worry about using notes, having note cards, stickies or whatever works, heck, you can even use teleprompter software!!
I want to encourage you to show up and shine BRIGHT!!
Don’t let these things, hold you back.
If you need more support, grab my FREEE-guide“Courageous Confidence Online” it gives you tips on managing your fear, lighting, hair and makeup so that you feel confident on camera and so much more.
Join me and Breakthrough Life Coach, Pamela Waldrop Shaw as we talk about learning to your next steps through intentional goal setting and listening for the whisper of God.
Pamela Waldrop Shaw, is an Independent INNER CIRCLE Executive National Sales Director with Mary Kay Cosmetics. She is a leader of leaders with over 4000 women in her immediate organization. She trains, coaches and mentors countless women on foundational business, people and leadership skills inside and outside of her company. For the past 34 years, she driven the infamous Pink Cadillac and is recognized as 9 Million Dollar earner. She is ranked #8 Nationally out of 3.5 million Beauty Consultants.
Her passion is helping others to help others find and live their true identity, design their lives and live their vision!
She has created and published a 90-day Planner, authored The Breakthrough Goal Setting Workbook and a guided Prayer journal that represent the core of her expertise.
